Have You ever been hit with a Grief Bomb?
Recently I was "Grief Bombed'. This is not a term I coined, but something from Sal and Imogen of the Good Mourning Podcast that I listen to. The name says it all, and as a griever, I am quite sure you get it.
I have literally been floored. A teacher at a yoga studio (we will call her Jean), that I was hoping to get some hours in as a substitute teacher, asked me how Dakota died. I quickly just lied, (I was not ready for such an inquisition, especially after a yoga class), so I said she had a dreadful accident on her yoga swing. The woman then went on to ask, with a smile on her face, 'Well was she doing what she loved???". I turned and left the studio. I WAS BOMBED. I left the studio, and have not been back. So much for my plans of getting teaching hours in!
So I have been at home, teaching at the Park and via zoom, and taking care of myself. Teaching yoga is beneficial for my students and for me.
§ Yoga helps loosen the emotional and physical tightness in our bodies caused by grief.
§ It helps clear your mind or at least calm it
§ The meditative aspects help focus your energy and thoughts
§ It can provide a sense of community
§ It may help you be at peace spiritually
Here is a 10 Min stretch that you can do before bed, that may help you sleep.
I have been working on Amhisa - Directly translated as “non-violence”, we can also understand Ahimsa to mean non-harm, compassion, mercy, peace, and love towards all beings. Basically just forgiveness. I very much doubt Jean intended to rip open my delicate healing heart. (Dakota transitioned in January 2018, so it has 4 years 6 months and 13 days). I have to forgive her so I can move forward, which I am still working onI cannot change what people say to me, but I can work on my reaction, to their insensitivity. I am taking a break from Social Media, and just working on healing.
Have you been grief bombed? I would love to hear how you handled it. I really believe the public needs more Grief Etiquette Education.
Two moms are taking care of the Facebook group for now. If you are a mom, who has lost your child traumatically, you are welcome to join us.
https://www.facebook.com/groups/1787032171500882
I'm currently taking names and email addresses of people who are interested in joining the fall session of Grief support Yoga and I will be running my Chakra Balancing Yin Yoga series again also, starting in the fall. I don't have the dates set in stone. Please let me know here if you are interested.
Grief is a journey that we have to walk alone. It will not get easier, but we will get stronger.
