My tears are healing myself and others

Giving myself permission to cry when I need to has been therapeutic and healing my for my soul. Giving myself to grieve openly may open the door to more people for other people not to hide their feelings.

After 4 months after Dakota left, my Dr, tried to rush me back to my old life, and back to work. He advised me to " get back in the saddle" and "get back to work", and "keep myself busy." He told me about a friend's mother who had lost a child and said she resigned from life and work when she lost her child. He said how she mourned the loss of her child for years, and counselled me not to go down that path.

I briefly entertained the thought, and even called my boss to discuss it. He told me to take as long as I need. I am so thankful I listened to him.

There is no rushing grief.

I think back to how I rushed through the death of my mother at 11. I was back in boarding school within 2 weeks, and stuffed my emotions down. This, along with other deaths in my family and extended family were all buried and I moved through the world reactively and explosively. They have all caught up to me and I have been working through each of them. Paying respects to my lost loved ones (my sister, my brother, my sister in laws, my father and granny ), and honouring my feelings for each loss.

Every healing modality that I have found useful, I have incorporated into my grief retreat. I would love to share these experiences with you. If you want to find out more, be in touch.

I look forward to hearing from you and walking alongside of you.